tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45631360335389105862024-02-08T05:18:07.740+03:00Paris Ankara ExpressThree sister: one in Paris, one in Ankara, the third behind a camera. Like the Marx brothers but sisters, French and no moustacheM and Shttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09990524219247428724noreply@blogger.comBlogger283125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-2299753028116838922012-03-02T18:22:00.000+02:002012-03-02T18:22:01.315+02:00Up yours, Napoleon. Or: I made that child, I get to name him.Today my son lost his name. These things do happen, even though it's just a little less improbable than losing one's shadow.<br />
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The name he lost was mine, and the one he was given instead, whether we like it or not, is his father's.<br />
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Before his big sister was born, my husband and I made a deal: if it's a girl, she gets his name, if it's a boy, he gets mine, and the second child, boy or girl, gets the other parent's name. We preferred that to the double barrel option as we thought this just wasn't sustainable across generations - and, given our names, would just sound weird. So we ended up with a two-name family (as opposed to a three-name family if we'd gone for the double-barrel option and each kept our own), and the names are equally distributed. We didn't mind the kids not having the same name as each other: it's not like they're likely to forget they're brother and sister, and none of us need a name to know that we belong together, so this worked for us.<br />
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But, it's not legal. At least in France, where a child born before 2005 must take his or her father's name if the parents are married. This is a remnant of the Napoleon code of law, which took it upon itself to tell French families exactly what they should look like. Of course, there's been some changes since. Children born after 2005 may take their mother's name, but on condition that their siblings take it too. So there's no way we could have what we wanted.<br />
Except we did: because we weren't married when the children were born, and because no one could work out that what we did wasn't legal until the records were computerised. So when I went to get Max's passport renewed, I was told that his last name had changed. And there is nothing I can do about it. My nine-year-old autistic son, who's just learnt to say his full name, is going to have to learn a new one.<br />
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Well, there's a couple of things we can do about it. We can have him take a <i>'nom d'usage'</i> which is the same sort of thing as I would be allowed to have if I wanted to take my husband's name. (So ironically, the French law does not allow me to take my husband's name officially, so I cannot have the same name as my children anyway). The <i>'nom d'usage'</i> cannot be my name, but has to be a double barrel name with my husband's name coming first. This will be recorded on passports etc, but his official name stays his father's and is also recorded on his passport. <br />
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As far as I can see, there isn't the slightest bit of a reason why this should be so. The requirement that siblings have the same name is ridiculous at best. Increasing, families are made up of children who don't share both parents (or any, but still consider each other brothers or sisters), so the requirement can't possibly apply to them: if you don't have the same father, and your mother married twice, then by (French) law, you can't have the same name. So the law is in fact designed so as to emphasise the difference between children in 'traditional' and reconstituted families. How nice is that?<br />
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The other thing we can do about it is get Max a UK passport, to which he is probably entitled to in his own name. We'll just have to try that. It seems the French law, so concerned that (legitimate) children should have the same name as their brothers and sisters, isn't bothered that one child should have different names in different countries.<br />
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In the meantime, I feel like we have strayed in a Wilkie Collins novel, and the only reason I'm not ditching French nationality for both children and myself is because we get a better deal from the French school they go to if they're French.Sandrinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10229404784641370601noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-18277683586311663002012-02-29T01:22:00.000+02:002012-02-29T01:22:27.587+02:00friendsThis is my picture for week 93 at Tara's gallery.<br />
Please share lots of friendships here <a href="http://stickyfingers1.blogspot.com/search/label/The%20Gallery">http://stickyfingers1.blogspot.com/search/label/The%20Gallery</a><br />
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What toys you buy at the shop represents only part of a child's play activities, we all know that. A child is as likely, more likely maybe, to play successfully with a cardboard box and a bit of string than with the latest Christmas presents. This is good, of course, it helps their imagination and our finances. But it has a darker side. Many parents will say that although they would never dream of buying their sons toy guns, the boys still found ways of playing at killing each other, with sticks, with their fingers. Boys will be boys will be warriors. Girls will be girls will be mothers. With teddy bears, paper dolls, pets or small siblings. <br />
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I have nothing against playing mother. It is a fine occupation, and one which I would encourage more in little boys. Too often I have seen boys laughed at or chastised for pretending to perform domestic tasks, pushing a pram, wearing an apron, etc. It seems that little girls are 'by nature' designed to play these games, where nature means the approval of parents, peers, teachers and everyone else they might encounter, not to mention that all powerful influence, the little girl on the advert, looking at you from the tv screen, posters on bus shelters and the boxes in the toy shops. It is clear that if you want to succeed in life, you should do as she does. <br />
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But what of the boys who would play war? What of their parents who are 'powerless' to do anything about it, because, after all, they don't buy toy guns? Warring is a very powerful experience, they say - it's you and your team against the rest, it grabs all your instincts and emotions, magnifies them, focuses them - it's part of the human experience. I think I know what they mean. When on a couple of occasions, as a child, I have been at war, against indians, extra terrestrials, etc., I have felt the exhilaration, the sense of belonging, of being out of myself. Mostly, the excitement comes from the sense that you're out to kill, that you're unbound, that you can really hurt someone, even if it's only pretence.<br />
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So, great, you think it's harmless and enjoyable to let your kids pretend they're killing other human beings. How about letting them play rape, or torture? These are, after all, real things that go on in wars just like the fighting. And if you want your play to be more unisex, and to include kids who're not so good at running, say, then you can let them play the rape or torture victims. That way it's more realistic and more inclusive. It can be quite varied and imaginative as well. If you're in quiet surroundings and there's just a couple kids, they can play date rape. If there's one girl and a bunch of boys, they can play gang rape, with a couple of boys holding down the girl while the others take it in turns to pretend to rape and beat her. Sure, it's disgusting. I'm not happy with myself for writing it down, even. But is it really that much worse than letting kids pretend to shoot each other with the kind of weapons that will cause major destruction to the human body, and to re-enact horror scenes that take place daily in not so distant parts of the world, involving children not much older than themselves?<br />
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Can't we just say no?Sandrinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10229404784641370601noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-23161026270564408942012-01-05T10:01:00.000+02:002012-01-05T10:01:09.376+02:00School days, blood pressure days.It started when he was four. Some days, he just didn't want to go to school. We'd have to carry him kicking and screaming into the school bus, knowing that he'd probably be allright once he got there. The kicking and the screaming was always for us only, with other people, he would be calm.<br />
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Then he got a bit older, and a bit bigger. Carrying him kicking and screaming no longer was an option. Once he'd started big school, the screaming would begin at 6.30 in the morning, getting up time, not wanting to put clothes on time. No longer for our ears only, it woke up the neighbours. Some days we'd manage to make him go, some days not, and then, we'd have to make a fast decision as to who would stay at home with him, whether we could get a last minute childminder to come, whether we could afford it. Then we'd have to find time to make up the work we'd missed, somehow, find the money to pay for the extra childcare.<br />
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Really not knowing what to do, I contacted a forum for autistic people and their family. What do you do when you child won't go to school? The responses were not helpful. How dare you keep your child away from school, they asked? Would you allow a non-autistic child to miss school? Do you think his education doesn't matter because he's autistic? Why don't you just tell him he's got to go?<br />
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I pictured myself telling him, over the screaming. At the time he was just beginning to talk, and mostly in Turkish, at that, a language I had no command of. I felt powerless. Another person advised me to make sure he had an unpleasant day if he stayed at home: no toys, no videos, just work. I didn't even try it out. Max in an worked up, not wanting to go to school state, was a head banger. At the slightest contradiction, he would begin to scream at the top of his voice and bang his head hard, on the floor, on the wall, on the furniture. I couldn't let that happen. I had to pacify him. Just do it, they'd said. Don't let him bang his head, they'd say. I couldn't even begin to imagine how it would be done.<br />
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Then in the second semester it stopped. He started to go school every day, or nearly, quite happily. We became used to having our days to ourselves, free to go about our work, and with a little bit of time spare at lunchtime to get together, my husband and I, to discuss strategies for the following day, just in case something went wrong. Often we used that time also to discuss how to help Max in other ways. We decided to keep him from school one day a week, Friday, so he could go to his special ed. classes in the afternoon and not be too knackered. We worked out how to use social stories to communicate with him better and help him deal with his anxieties. We found a way of getting help for him in the school, even though there was no real provision for that kind of thing here. <br />
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Over the following year, we had some scares, some nervous moments, he did miss school a few times, but we were able, mostly, to write it off as him not being quite well: a lot of autistic kids aren't great at recognising when they're sick, or communicating it. So we would assume he was and he'd go back the next day. On the whole he had a great year. He changed a lot, he learned a lot.<br />
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Then it started again this November. At first, we'd think he was sick. And he was, at least some of the time: we were all plagued by some nasty colds that just wouldn't go away. But, now more verbal, he made it very explicit that he did not want to go to school. He no longer wanted to work, get up in the morning, he was going to stay home, play and draw. A couple of times we managed to drag him to the school bus. Then we got a phone call from the driver saying he wouldn't come out to go into the school building. The teachers managed to coax him out, but Max didn't do much that day, and the next day, he stayed home.<br />
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This dragged on until the Christmas holiday, during which he spoke of going back in January fairly enthusiastically. His teachers were very sympathetic. No one told us this time that we just had to make him go. No one accused us of being bad parents, or not trying hard enough. This morning was the first day back. He got up. Reluctantly let me put on his clothes. Complained of tummy ache, so didn't eat. Refuse to brush his teeth, and kept up a low pitch moan while I was putting on his coat. Downstairs, with his dad, he ate a pastry, and waited for the bus, all the time keeping up a monologue in which he told himself he had to go to school. When the bus arrived Max froze. My husband picked him up and carried him, like a marble statue, to the car, slid him in and left. No screaming.<br />
Back home, my first thought was to switch off my phone, so I didn't get the call from the driver telling me things hadn't gone well. I switched it back on immediately, of course. No call came, so I imagine things went ok. Tomorrow is Friday, his day off, so we'll have till Monday to figure how to make him go back. Maybe he'll be fine. We just don't know. <br />
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<i>I hesitated to publish this, because it seems too much like a rant about how hard our life is. It isn't. Hard, I mean. We're lucky that we've got jobs that pay enough for emergency childcare when we need it, that we've got a very flexible child-minder, that we live close enough to work that we don't lose a lot of time in commuting, that there's two of us, that our time tables are such that we can box and cox without too much damage to our careers most of the time, and I could go on. But it's taking its toll, on our health - hence the title - as well as our careers. The fact that there is no obvious solution and that a lot of people are unsympathetic makes me wonder how many parents are in that situation and just don't bother talking about it. Talking about it with friends often leads to them saying 'most kids don't like going to school'. If you're in the same situation as we are, you know this isn't the same thing. And if you want to talk about it, we're here. </i>Sandrinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10229404784641370601noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-56289774215128909492011-12-08T14:18:00.001+02:002011-12-08T14:20:08.635+02:00To: Santa Claus, Re: Retirement, Cc: the Elves.<style type="text/css">
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Dear Santa.</div>
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Thanks for coming. I think it's about
time you and I had this chat.
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I'll be blunt: I have gone ahead and bought the iPad.
I didn't even wait till Christmas to do it, I didn't wrap it, and I
started playing with it straight away. Santa, honey, let's be honest
here: I've been asking you for apple goods for years now. And I've
been good. Certainly as good as some people who have prettier
computers than I do.
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So yes, I bought it. If you want to
help you can get me some accessories. But I'll not be counting on you
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Santa: I think you need to stop. You
can't handle the job anymore. Your memory's not what it used to be,
you probably don't even know what timezone I'm in, and I'm pretty
damn sure you don't know how to use the internet (you know, the links
I emailed you to the things I wanted? You click on them and order
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I know you're supposed to be all about
the children these days. But, Santa, sweetie, honestly? I was in
Marks and Sparks the other day, choosing something for a baby girl.
All the stuff there was either pink and labelled 'Mummy's little
princess' or blue with 'Mummy's little monster'. Do your elves make
that stuff? Haven't you read Cordelia Fine yet? Haven't you cottoned
on to gender equality? Are you trying to undermine everything we
teach our children? And to be honest, Santa, they don't really
believe in you anymore. My daughter is angling for some electronic
goods this year, so given your track record, it's probably best she
doesn't even ask you, and my son's writing lists for us, not you:
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Look here, Santa, calm down a bit. All
I'm suggesting is that you take your long overdue retirement. I'm
sure the elves will look after you. And look, you're not completely
out of the picture, we still sing the songs. But I'm beginning to
think that even that is a bit out of order: all the threats 'You'd
better watch out', the blackmail, and the really dodgy stuff –
snogging the kiddies' mums, watching us while we sleep. Santa: get
the fuck out of my bedroom, now!
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Santa, I don't know what happened to
you. I used to think you were a sweet old guy with too much time and
money on his hands that parents could fob off the job of getting
prezzies for their kids on to. Now I'm concerned.
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Listen Santa, no one is saying you're
redundant. Well. I mean there's lot of stuff you can get us. Like
world peace. I'm sure lots of people have been asking for that and
you just haven't had time to get round to it because of looking
around for all these toys. And better weather. Why don't you get on
to that? The kids would appreciate a bit of snow on Christmas day,
I'm sure, and I wouldn't mind if that bloody rain stopped.
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Look Santa, there's really no need to
get upset. We all get old – I didn't make the rules. If I had, I'd
have probably put a woman in charge by now, anyway. Ever heard of the
glass ceiling? You've had a good run, Santa, but you can't blame us
for wanting a bit of change in the way we run Christmas. Santa,
really, you're going to bring on a heart attack if you go on that
way. It wouldn't hurt to lose a bit of weight, by the way. Santa: PUT
THE GUN DOWN. That's right, give it to me. Ok, look, you can bring us
gifts just this time. We've put our tree on the balcony by the way.
We got a cat, he eats the ornaments. Well, you'd know that if you'd
been paying a bit more attention. Anyway, just dump the stuff under
the tree and go. What do I want? Oh, just the usual. More computers,
books, that kind of shit. You know what I like Santa. You shouldn't
have to ask year after year- you've known me since I was this high.
Ok, look, fine. Just bring me a scarf. Yeah, sure, I'll wear it. Go,
now. Yes you can have your gun back. But mind you don't play with it
when you're near children.
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Meanwhile, Charlotte is hard at work on the boxes. Cut out of construction paper and folded, each one has to be decorated individually. I do a few by gluing stills from the film, I get Max to do couple as well, with pastels on brown paper. Charlotte does most of the rest.<br />
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Bill is called in on the last few nights for the heavy work: gluing the boxes together into a frame he constructs out of the same paper. I cut out the doors on the picture. The tiny toys go in the bags and into the boxes. We glue the cover on. It only just fits. And we put it up.<br />
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Max is the first to open: Charlotte will take the even days so she gets Christmas eve. He comes in the morning and looks at it, starry eyed. 'Oh, it's beautiful'.<br />
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You can find last year's advent calendar <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/2010/12/its-no-longer-too-early-for-christmas.html">here</a>, and the ones before <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/2010/10/i-know-its-way-too-early-to-be-thinking.html">here</a>.Sandrinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10229404784641370601noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-91338727352648406052011-12-01T09:30:00.001+02:002011-12-01T22:07:09.622+02:00A day at the mall<style type="text/css">
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'Is this the right direction? Do you
recognize it?' 'I'm not sure: I'll ask the driver.' Yes, he says,
this is the way to Panora. It's such a long ride: Charlotte is
worried she won't meet her friends on time, although it's a good half
hour before the start of the film, so it should all-right. We drive
through roads we don't know, trusting the driver to get us there. We
take a turn to the left and there's a car in front of us, going
awfully slowly. Our driver brakes, and I'm thinking I'm glad he
wasn't going too fast. Then I hear a bump and everything is in slow
motion. We swing back and we swing forward, once, twice, forever. I
have time to remember everything I've always heard about car
accidents. There's a long silence. The driver turns towards us:
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Men come out of the cars in front and
behind us, looking angry, mean, too big for us to take on. I look at
my daughter again: she's not even wearing a fucking seat belt! My
eyes well up, but I keep it cool. She's ok, she's unharmed and just
wants to know if she'll get to the mall on time. We put our seatbelts
on. We wait a bit. We ask. They have to wait for the police. Everyone
is staying calm after all. We take another taxi to finish our journey
and the driver lets us out in the middle of a busy road because he
says there's too much traffic to go all the way. My eyes tear up
again as I try to cross with Charlotte.
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She's relieved that she's not the last
girl to arrive. I watch from a balustrade as she greets her friends,
goes to buy the ticket. I call my husband to tell him not to worry,
that we're fine, that it was no big deal, but that I was shit-scared. I
need food. Junk food, to be precise, something with lots of sugar and
chemicals that will go straight to the bits of my brain that won't
stop playing the scene over and put it to sleep. There's a big queue
at the burger place, so I go to the chicken place. It's fried
chicken. I used to find it pointlessly disgusting. Now I know that
this is how some people in America actually eat their chicken I don't
mind so much. I also know what they do to the living birds that
end up in the paper plate so normally I avoid it. Today I have no fellow feeling for
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The film is a long one. Some very dull
young woman has to do some very dull things with a glittery vamp. I
have to hang out in the mall, and wait for Charlotte's call. There's
some Christmas shopping to do, toys for the advent calendar.
Charlotte said there were some toy shops on the second floor. I want
to find a book shop too. I go look. I get lost. This mall is the
closest to hell I've ever imagined. Too many people, too much noise,
and no way to find anything: where is Virgil when you need him? It
turns out the bookshop and some toy shops are on the third circle and
the other toy shops and accessories shop on the second one. Or is it
the other way round? Dante didn't have a thing on the people who
designed this place. To find a toilet, you have to go round three
times anti-clockwise, go into a broom cupboard, and up and down some
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Fighting my ways through the crowds at
the bookstore, trying to see where they keep the books, amongst the
toys, the magazines, the cheap cds, I picture myself in a zombie
apocalyptic world. I have a riffle and I take them out, one by one,
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In one of the toy shops, there's a
Scream outfit, and a handful of pretty neat Star Wars costumes. What
a change from the usual snow white/ spiderman crap! The pictures on
the wrappings all show 10 year old boys. What do 10 year old boys
have that I don't? I pick up the tag: a lot of money, apparently –
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I'm sitting in the bookshop, drinking
overpriced coffee when Charlotte comes and find me. The things I
bought are hidden in my handbag. She's pleased with her outing. She's
happy we came. We go home.<br />
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This is what we use for sugar: the gunk at the bottom of last year's pekmez bottle. We buy it in Cappadocia from a friend of a friend who makes it with white grapes, which is nicer than the stuff you buy in the markets and is made with black grapes. Apparently. <br />
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This year I had to do without the mango amchoor powder as we'd run out. Instead I used what may or may not have been mace. It smells like pepper. I put a lot in. Just to see.<br />
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Diogene asked that I put in this photo of him, as opposed to one when he was trying to nick the fruit, stick his paws in the mix, or knock down jars.<br />
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It is with great sorrow that I find myself obligated to report, for the sake of posterity, on a grave but thoroughly excusable mistake I have made. I am, I most shamefully admit, too much of a coward to share my recent observations with my own colleagues. The queen has been executed, and I do not want to sacrifice my reputation along with hers. I can still do some good for my country by holding the values I have always defended against those who would throw us into a senseless and bloody uprising.<br />
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It has come to my notice via a certain friend of my old enemy Price, that it was possible to publish one's thoughts for posterity without fear that they would be known during my lifetime. Though I am ignorant of the mechanics I have no choice but to avail myself of this method. <br />
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When I first saw Marie Antoinette, as you will know – for I have no doubt but that you read my Reflections on the Revolution in France – I was dazzled by her beauty and goodness. Though she was, naturally, standing so far from me that I could barely make out her silhouette from that of the surrounding trees, I was struck at once by the purity and refinement of her face, body, and manner. Through the gracefulness of her movements, the beauty of her mind was scintillating. In my book I also reported with terrible sadness the manner in which ruffians, criminals, assaulted her in her own room at night so that she had to seek refuge in his majesty's own room. <br />
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The creatures who took to the streets in that wretched summer of 89 had more in common, to my mind, with the zombies that were festering in the English country side than they had with the human race, and even less with that half angelic race to which the queen belonged. Their clothes stank, their mouths were but toothless, and yet, they clamoured for Parisian bread, which, if I remember correctly is harder than Robespierre's own heart, so that they could not even chew through it. But the women were the worst. They were stronger than then the men, hardly like women at all: able to carry the sticks they used to threaten those more graceful than them, and with voices that could be heard through the crowds, without a hint of that charm and gentleness which polite societies had come to expect from members of the weaker sex. <br />
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This is all I knew of those happenings at the time I wrote my book. And I stand by every single word I wrote about the Parisian women – if they even deserve to be called that, which I doubt. But after my book was in print, I began to hear some extremely frightening reposts, which at first, I saw fit to quash and deny as any gentleman would who had first hand acquaintance with a lady of the quality of the queen of France. This remained true until six weeks ago, when it was my misfortune to renew an old acquaintance, with a chevalier who had loved the queen even more than I had. His name, Rougeville, may not be known to you as he is not a writer and his part in this story is of little importance. Rougeville loved the queen chastely and hopelessly though he lived in close quarters to her as he was part of the king's circle. He was there on that fateful night, playing cards with the king in his rooms, when the queen burst in upon them. His account, told over a quart of clouded beer in the inn in which he was intent on putting an end to his days, still causes me to wake at night in terror and a sweat.<br />
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His Highness – for I must carry on calling him that, even though his head was two years ago – and my acquaintance had been playing a game of piquet, and had let themselves be distracted by some reflections of the king on cartography, as was their wont of an evening. The first they knew of the impending tragedy was some screaming in the adjacent corridor. The king's servant was sent to investigate, but even though the king was well aware that there were troubles in Paris, he imagined they had not reached Versailles and surmised that the noise came from a drunken boy who had fallen down some stairs. When his own servant did not return, he soon forgot the screaming to pick up his cards again. But as soon as he had started to lose, more screaming roused him to send another servant. That second servant not returning, he sent a third, and a fourth. In the meantime, the Swiss guards who had also heard the noise, had gathered in the corridor too, and the king could hear that some sort of battle was going on outside his rooms. So it was bravely and rather fearlessly that when a knock came on the door connecting his room to the queen's he demanded that Rougeville go and open it, while he kept himself at a distance only suited to his status – for the people of France would not forgive him if he allowed himself to be harmed. Rougeville opened the door, ready to rescue in his arms the object of his love from whatever evil had been unfolding. <br />
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But instead, he recoiled! The queen, who it is true, had been sick after sustaining a nasty bite while out on a hunt, looked frightful enough to put the fear of death in any one, love-sick chevalier, or not. Her face was a palish green, and she had scratched the part of her head when she had been bit, so that the bone was exposed. She still wore the wig that had been placed on her that morning by her maid, but it was covered with blood, grit, and what he could only surmise were bits of human entrails. Instead of standing straight she was crouched, her hands held in front her her, twisted like claws. Her fingers and her teeth were soaked in blood. Her graceful, youthful voice was replaced by a low whining growl. The chevalier had not choice but to close the door on her, but most unfortunately, not before the king had caught a glimpse of his wife and of what lay behind her: murdered men and women, their heads broken, the eyes rolling out of their sockets and what little was left of their brains leaking on the blue carpets from Persia. <br />
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The account as I have told it in my book is not all false. The Parisian ruffians did come in to Versailles, but that was after they called to deal with the massacre of the king's swiss guards. Once they had decapitated and staked all the queen's victims, and managed to contain the monster itself, they decided that they might as well arrest the king and bring him to Paris. The latter was too shocked by what he had witnessed to protest, and merely requested that he might be allowed to change into clean drawers before coming. Rougeville escaped and was spared. But the image of the queen haunts him till now, as it will me, till the day I die. I can only pray that my release comes soon. <br />
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I have just heard from Rougeville and he has requested that I listen to yet more of his gruesome confessions. I am to meet him tomorrow night. I can only wish that death takes me before I have to share in more of his nightmare.<br />
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It's my son, he's talking about, not his
own, the three-year-old struggling to escape from his father's grasp
so he can slide down to play on the floor. Not quite his business,
you may think. Except of course, that I'm at the special education centre, where autism
is everybody's business. He tries to explain, but he struggles, as
his English is not what it used to be – he studied at an English
language university, as I know from a previous meeting. Max can
speak, he wants to say, he's friendly, so he's not autistic. I point out that even
now that Max has made so much progress, we're still experiencing
quite a few difficulties related to his autism. The fact that if the
slightest thing freaks him out at school he refuses to go the next
day, and is incapable of telling us why. The fact that he still has
temper tantrums that make us worry the neighbours will report us to
security, again. The fact that the rare conversations we have with
him are only ever about what he's drawing or transportation, who
lives where and where we're going to on holiday. Not that I'm
complaining: it's wonderful that he can speak at all, the tantrums
are a fraction of what they used to be and he goes to school often
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every parent goes through. Autism, he adds, is just a name. The words
'triad of impairment' come to my lips. But then, I'm never entirely
sure about this classification. I mention that Max, probably like his
own son, finds certain kinds of social interactions difficult and
that his language development is still quite far behind that of the
children – two years younger than him – in his class. So while
he's sweet enough when parents and teachers at the center ask him how
he is, and while this is a huge achievement compared to how he used
to be, it's not something that will help him make friends in the
school yard. He's blessed with seriously good looks, so there's
always a gaggle of little girls queuing up to play with him, help
him. But he's never just going to join a game of football: he doesn't
understand the rules, and he wouldn't know how to communicate with
those who might explain. So he plays alone.
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Among the older kids who go on Saturday
mornings, Max is probably the one who has the easiest time both
socially and academically. There's a teenage girl who is, as far as I
can tell, non-verbal, meaning that she doesn't speak, or very little
- although as far as I know she could be a very fluent writer: autism
is weird, like that. There's a big boy who seems like a fluent enough
speaker, but altogether avoids eye contact, at least when he's at the
center. Max must seem like a success story, to parents of toddlers,
when compared with those. Max is the kid they'd like their own to be
most like. They cannot really project anything more suited to their
child's personality: for all his talk of autism being just a word,
the father who spoke to me is almost certainly persuaded that his own
son will grow up to be like Max, not like the other two. At three,
the boy is beginning to speak. He has good eye contact, seems to be
fairly well-behaved, and doesn't do a lot of stimming (repetitive
movement or noise that autistic people sometimes do). Max at the same
age was a whole different story. There's no reason to expect that
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The father of the three year old wants
to make his point further – that Max is not autistic – by
speaking directly to him, in English. I must have told him three
times already that Max's English is very limited, but that he's
fluent in both French and Turkish. By this point, another mother has
joined in to the discussion of my son's autism. Oh yes, she says,
having to learn several languages will mix up his head – that is
well known. And then she, too, proceeds to speak to Max in English.
In the end, both Max and I were polite. Max offered a few slightly
puzzled 'Yes' s to their questions, and I did not say that Max's
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I am sitting down to write this
half-way between Paris and Lille which I hope to reach before
tomorrow night. I am tired from the journey, and being with child has
affected my capacity to reminisce – nonetheless, dear loyal reader,
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'Tis two years now since I fled infected
London for Paris – two wonderful, peaceful years, when the only
upsetting events were the occasional loss of a dear friend to the
guillotine. 'Tis in Paris that I met my dear beloved Imlay, adored
companion and father of my child to be. France is mercifully free of
zombies. I believe the revolutionary practice of using the guillotine
often and plenty has so far prevented a general infection of the
country: the blade that slices through the neck is democratic enough in that
it kills zombies and royalists alike. M. Guillotine, I should note,
was one of the early proponents of the view to which I fully
subscribe that in order to destroy a zombie and prevent it from
rising again, one should separate its head from its body.
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rather than succeeded, I retreated for a while to my own affairs.
After a spell in Ireland, where I was put in charge of protecting six
children from their zombified mother, I came home to start a school
with my beloved Fanny. Such happiness, however, would not last. Fanny
was bitten, by one of my own sisters (a story I shall tell on a later
occasion). I entreated her to leave England for Portugal, where I
hoped the weather would be more favourable to her condition. I soon
received reports that she was worsening, and still in hope that I
might assist a recovery, I decided to join her. I lost no time in
setting out and endured a tolerable passage in a ship ridden with
zombies. My days were spent cutting through necks and limbs, and my
nights locked away in a tiny, rank smelling cabin. As soon as I set
foot in Portugal, I realised that there could be no hope. Not a
single living soul remained: all had been zombified, which should
have come as no surprised had I reflected on the extreme catholicism
of the natives. My dear Fanny expired in my arms, after I had
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Desolate, I returned to London,
whatever small lust for life I had left all but used up in slaying my
way through the journey back. Fortunately, my good friend Johnson
approached me and offered me work in which I was able to lose my
sorrowful self. I reviewed, edited, translated, even wrote book,
which, I am not afraid to say, gathered a little success of their
own. Twas then also I met the treacherous Fuseli. Straightaway I was
charmed by his wit, and his worldliness, and I do not flatter myself
I believe when I say that he did not find my company unpleasant, at
least at first. But as s oon as I had persuaded myself that he
returned my affections, Fuseli found himself obliged to marry a
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wedding – to which I was not invited – it became apparent to me
that the young Mrs Fuseli was in fact entirely devoid of brains –
except for the ones it was her practice to devour at breakfast. Yes,
Fuseli had succeeded where I had so spectacularly failed: he had
tamed a zombie and taken her for his wife. Full of admiration for him
and pity for her, I immediately offered myself as complement to their
household. I argued in a convincing enough manner that whereas he
had apparently succeeded in training his dead wife so that he could
use her body as he pleased without risk of infection, he must sorely
miss the intellectual company of a real woman. I put myself entirely
at their mercy, humbly requesting that they should take me into their
home. To my great horror, Fuseli laughed in my face, and his wife
growled at me in such a way that I came to fear for my life. Twas
then I decided to leave for Paris where I have at last found bliss,
in the person of Imlay, a tall handsome American (Fuseli is Swiss and
Short), with whom I am expecting to start a family in a short few
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<br />Sandrinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10229404784641370601noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-52493991738005617472011-11-08T00:21:00.000+02:002011-11-08T00:21:04.182+02:00First catch your pumpkin: a recipe.I' ve always felt a bit iffy about recipes that start with 'First, catch a rabbit'. I think Mrs. B used it, but given she was a London journalist, and she' d never set foot any where she could have caught a rabbit, one would be justified in thinking it was done for show. <br />
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First catch a bus, from the Ankara bus station, ASTI, in the direction of Nevsehir. At Nevsehir, get into a smaller bus to Goreme. When you get off, walk to your hotel, greet the owners like the old friends they have become, dump your bags, and go off for a restorative meal and walk.<br />
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Settle on a pumpkin vendor, ask his price: 1tl a kilo. This small one is three kilos - that's cheap and not too big to carry back.<br />
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A couple more stops: a prehistoric village with houses you can climb into, a monster of a church with Byzantine pretensions, surrounded by a huge monastery complex dug into the stone. No one around: again, this is not in any of our guides. <br />
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Our final destination: Soganli. Zekerya bey calls the restaurant ahead to tell them we're coming. They're crowded with two tour groups: but they'll make room for us, we come this time every year.<br />
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Out of the bus we fall, Max carrying a huge empty Safeway shopping bag. <br />
The tables are set indoors. Normally we eat in the orchard but it's bloody freezing. But before lunch the ritual. Zekeya shakes the apple trees. The fruit falls every where and the children run and gather it in Max's bag. Zekerya and the restaurant owner cry: 'more! more!'<br />
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Carve the pumpkin for Halloween. Use the flesh for a soup, and for a pie.<br />
Put a handful of flesh in a pan with a spoonful of water. Heat it a bit. Don't burn.<br />
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Wizz it with a hand mixer. Bang it in the fridge till you need it - it should keep a couple of days.<br />
Mix a small carton of cream with the pumpkin. Add cinammon, crushed allspice, and grate what may or may not be mace into it. Add a bit of sugar, not much.<br />
Prepare a crust: 200 g of white flour, 120g of cold butter, a couple of spoonfuls of sugar and a bit of salt. If you use gluten-free flour, add an egg yolk. Mix with your fingers and don't be ages about it. Add a bit of cold water, roll it, flatten it on some grease proof paper, put the greased pie dish on top, turn it over and make it fit.<br />
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Add the pumpkin mix, bang in the oven for about half hour. Take it out to cool, well out of the way of the cat. Eat.<br />
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<br />Sandrinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10229404784641370601noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-23371053739570948312011-11-01T09:25:00.000+02:002011-11-01T09:25:09.293+02:00The Piano Tuner: a Halloween Tale.- 'Shall we watch a horror movie? I ask. It's Halloween. It's what grown ups are supposed to do.'<br />
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He's wet, I think. Afraid he'll have nightmares.<br />
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- 'Fine.' I say, resigned. 'Let's go to bed, then.' <br />
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He looks up from his laptop:<br />
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- 'Coming. Leave a note for the piano tuner, will you?'<br />
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He doesn't mean anything by that. He said it as he sometimes says: 'Don't forget to put the tiger out'. I ignore him: our tiger is very small and it is not allowed out. <br />
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In bed, he says it again.<br />
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- 'Did you leave a note for the piano tuner?'<br />
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So I decide to tease. Is the piano tuner, I ask, a zombie freshly dug out of the grave to eat our brains while we sleep? Is he a vampire, who will knock on our door once and wait politely to be invited, before he bleeds us to death? Is he perhaps an escaped lunatic, carrying with him the dripping head of his previous victim in one hand and a long shiny knife to kill us in the other? Or is Freddy Krueger, with knives for fingers, a rotten face and an old stinky hat, waiting till we drop off to get us in our dreams? Is the piano tuner a small creature with a bent back and a hooked nose and piercing red eyes, who'll paralyse us with his spit and peel off our skin while we watch? Is he a small child with empty eyes, who will send us crashing to the ceiling with his supernatural strength? An old woman with an axe and a mad determined look on her face? Or a doll, even, a clown, anything at all, that I can summon from the films you don't want to watch with me?'<br />
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- 'Go to sleep.' he says. <br />
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But now I can't. The piano tuner is coming. I don't know what he is, but I know I should not close my eyes, or he will come for sure. I mustn't get up to check I've locked the door. Walking alone in a dark corridor is not recommended in this scenario. I might as well invite him in. Or go investigate a noise in dark attic by myself. Or find help where I might normally expect it. I look down at the shape of my husband's neck and head, half under the cover. Can I be sure it's him? I wake him just in case. I need to check. I look deep into his sleepy eyes. I have a vague memory that sometimes in films husbands get possessed by evil aliens. Better not to look too hard, then. If I'm lucky he'll wait till I'm fast asleep to murder me. Ignorance is bliss. I would rather die in my sleep. Painlessly, even, maybe.<br />
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But in the end, it is painful. I hear footsteps. My arms and legs are pinned to the bed by needles, knives and stakes. I try to hide under the cover, but again it comes for me. I manage to free a leg and I kick. The thing screams an unholy scream. It's a devil, now I know. Can I find enough strength to wake my husband and tell him to find a priest, an Italian, just like in the Exorcist? I fear he may be possessed already, as he's still fast asleep. I steal myself for more pain. I feel it moving towards my head. Will it enter through the mouth, the eyes, the ears? I close my eyes, shut my mouth, cover my ears and wait. And then it purrs. It was the tiger after all.<br />
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I put it out. I close the door. <br />
<br />Sandrinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10229404784641370601noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-38507848378711256962011-09-13T10:15:00.000+03:002011-09-13T10:15:39.342+03:00All I can do...A couple of years ago, <a href="http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/07/07/a-critique-of-the-empathizing-systemizing-e-s-theory/">Rachel Cohen-Ruttenberg wrote on her blog</a> about Simon Baron-Cohen's claims regarding empathy and autism. You're wrong, she said. Autistic people do have empathy. In fact, they very often have too much, which leads to a sort of paralysis of response. What do you do when the outside world is seeping through every pore of your being? You just close down. Now, Rachel know what she's talking about: she's autistic herself. Also, her argument has the merit of making sense, whereas SBC's arguments only really hang together because they tie with well accepted cultural stereoptypes, such as: <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/2010/04/boys-will-be-boys-will-be-autistic-my.html">boys like cars and don't communicate. Girls like dolls and talk all the time. </a><br />
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But Simon Baron-Cohen is not a snob, no, not he. So he agreed not only to read Rachel's post, but to <a href="http://autismblogsdirectory.blogspot.com/2011/09/simon-baron-cohen-replies-to-rachel.html">respond to it as a guest poster in a blog</a>.<br />
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Unfortunately, as he is a scientist, his hands were somewhat tied. All the poor man can do is 'look at the evidence'. And that evidence points clearly in the opposite direction of Rachel's own experience or that of other autistic people writing for her blog <a href="http://www.autismandempathy.com/?cat=14">"Autism and Empathy"</a>.<br />
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And that evidence is first rate: SBC has asked a lot of autistic people, non autistic people and their parents to fill in a questionaire, asking them how empathic they are! This questionaire even has a proper scientific name: <a href="http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/9.12/aqtest.html">the AQ</a> for autism quotient. And the you can find it on the web to find out if you are autistic.<br />
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So sorry Rachel and every one else: we simply cannot disregard this evidence.<br />
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I'd like to say I hit gold - but it would be slightly off the mark. There just aren't many writings by women philosophers before Christine de Pizan. And not many afterwards either until the seventeenth century, when every princess worth her salt started taking on Descartes, and a few English eccentrics wrote metaphysical treatises of their own. Then, gradually, there's an increase in the female branch of the family, and now we make up nearly 20% of the profession! Hurrah! In another three or four centuries, we might actually reach equal proportions. Never lose hope.<br />
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I've ranted before about why there aren't that many women philosophers, listing <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/2010/09/where-have-all-women-gone.html">several reasons</a>, <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/2010/11/salad-bar-philosophy-anyone.html">none of them have to do with women not being good enough</a>. But I think I may have come across yet another reason.<br />
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Reading up on the Abelard and Heloise literature, I found very little analysis of what Heloise had to say. Instead, authors questioned whether she'd written the letters herself. Was the whole correspondence a forgery from the author of Le Roman de la Rose? Or did Abelard himself concoct them as a publicity stunt? Some more generous commentators suggest that maybe Abelard discussed with Heloise what her fake responses might be before he wrote them. The thought that Heloise was a highly educated woman, who taught Greek, Latin and Hebrew to the nuns in the convent she ran, did not dampen the of those wanting to write her out of philosophical history. Of course no one suggests that it's because she's a woman. No. It just so happens that the best use of some scholars' time is in coming up with arguments why Heloise couldn't have written these letters. It also turns out that these arguments don't hold much water - as a more careful scholar, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Philosophy-Peter-Abelard-John-Marenbon/dp/0521663997">John Marenbon</a>, convincingly argues.<br />
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When I eventually located a text attributed to an Ancient Greek woman philosopher, I had the same experience. I quickly found myriads of poorly constructed arguments why she could not have written her own piece of philosophy. Granted, the writer bore the name of Plato's mum. Given there are no records of her being a philosopher, it stretches the imagination a bit far to think she was a well-known author. It doesn't stretch it as far to think she would have written a short text though, so I'm not sure it's worth getting one's knickers in a twist. But the texts themselves are discounted as forgeries by men writing some four centuries later. Again, the arguments are shoddy. And no one seems to even entertain the possibility that the forger, or pseudonymous writer, could have been a woman. I call it bad faith. I call it bad scholarship. I call it bad philosophy. <br />
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Telling 'Im indoors about all this at lunchtime, we pondered why and when this taking over of women's philosophical productions stopped. After all, he said, nobody is claiming that Wollstonecraft's or Simone de Beauvoir's books were written by men. I said that maybe that was because they were both active, public figures, who discussed their works with other writers, so that there could be no doubt about authorship. He replied that maybe these memories were still too fresh in our minds, but that a few centuries from now, people would again start questioning whether these works had not in fact been written by Godwin or Sartre.<br />
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Which brings me to the title of this post. How long till fragments of my books turn up in some archive and someone, bent on identifying obscure philosophers from the past decides that I couldn't have written them and attributes them to a male contemporary of mine? I suppose I won't be worrying about the royalties, then.Sandrinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10229404784641370601noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-50897678360787109872011-08-09T20:53:00.000+03:002011-08-09T20:53:32.654+03:00A Welsh bestiaryMax is not big on animals. I often feel a twinge of envy ('Your kid's autism is better than mine'!?! - I know...) when I read about autistic kids who get help from having close relationships with dogs or horses. Max is just afraid of them. It's been a pain at times, as animals do get around. But mostly, I've felt that he missed out not only on fun with cuddly beasts, but on a whole learning experience that other children get from talking about nature. <br />
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Well, things did start to change for the better during our Welsh holiday last month. Max was on the whole calmer around animals, able to talk about them and learn from them.<br />
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He went fishing in rock pools with a little net: proudly caught a dead crab, all by himself, and marvelled at the tiny shrimp and catfish his daddy captured for him. He also enjoyed throwing them back in the sea, so we had no floaters to deal with.<br />
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During <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/2011/08/cliff-walk.html">our cliff walk to Aberystwyth,</a> we were able to talk about sheep, and how they give us wool, and cows and how they give us milk. A few days later we visited <a href="http://www.fantasyfarmpark.co.uk/">a fantasy farm</a> and Max pulled on the udders of a plaster cow.<br />
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I took him to <a href="http://www.animalarium.co.uk/">a small zoo</a> where he was given a cup of raw veg and peanuts to feed the animals. He let me handle the actual feeding part of it, but was absolutely delighted to see the squirrels eat the nuts.<br />
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But his favourite creatures were definitely the gulls, despite the fact that there were so many of them, that they came very close to us, that they were loud and aggressive, he loved them. He sought them out, imitated their cry, and walked up close to them. A week before we went to Wales, he was still scared of pigeons.<br />
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Today, he told me he'd like to have a cat. <br />
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<div style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Ok, so going into the sea when it's cold and raining does get old. After the first day of our Welsh holiday, I made a social story for Max with a list of things we can do when we can't swim. I don't normally do list posts - that's Marianne's thing - and this isn't really a list, more of a heap.<br />
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</div>We blew bubbles, we painted stones, took a ride on a steam train, picked early blackberries, played in the playground, visited a zoo, took long walks in the country side, painted stones, learned how to do ceramics, threw a ball on the beach, built castles, went fishing in the rock pools, rode a boat on a pond, learnt how to wire up a circuit, played angry birds, and built Lego tractors. <br />
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</div><div>I was freaking out. The guy - let's call him Robert, asked me out as we bumped into each other in the Paris metro. We hadn't seen each other in four years, chatted for a few minutes and he asked for my number, promising to call me a few days later. Right, I thought, he'll never call. I'm 34 and yet I still cannot tell when a guy will or will not call, I think it's pretty pathetic, but anyway. He called, of course (maybe I should strongly believe I am ALWAYS wrong and know, from now on, that men will do the exact opposite I think they will do. That should work!) and asked me out. On a date. As in, a real one. Restaurant and all. He even offered to pick me up at home.<br />
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I should have known something was wrong as I received the 15th text about where and when we should meet. Seriously. Pick a time and place, ask the woman if that's OK and go with it. It was flattering and sweet at first "Where would you like to go?" "I thought of this place, what do you think?", but then it got annoying. I'm not patient. There. I grow tired of people who do not know what they want.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Of course I bought a new outfit, spent an hour applying make-up and doing my hair, changed three times and swore a million times about said make-up, clothes and me being a fat cow. I think this was, by far, the best part of the date. I had forgotten the excitement of it all.</div><div><br />
</div><div>He arrived right on time and we walked to the restaurant. While we ate I begun to wonder if I hadn't been tricked or something: all Robert talked about was his ex-wife. By the end of the meal, I felt I knew her pretty well, now. What I did know for sure is that Robert was not over her. </div><div><br />
</div><div>He walked me home, the perfect gentleman. But for God's sake, it was the most boring evening ever. I was back home at 10pm. I called my girlfriends, took a cab and went off to have some actual fun in bars and clubs.<br />
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</div><div>I thought he'd never call back but of course he did. I saw him once more (well, he was good looking and nice and clever, so I had to give him another chance) and it was just as disastrous. I had to tell him he was not ready. At least he agreed with me. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Dear Robert, I hope you'll be better at dating soon. What I know now is that your next date will not be with me ;)<br />
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<div style="margin-bottom: 0in;">The weather is turning. There is now more blue than grey in the sky and it looks as though it might get warm later on. That said, we're still avoiding spending time by the beach – yesterday we took the cliff top walk to Aberystwyth, today we're off to visit an Cistercian Abbey: Strata Florida.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;">The good weather is getting to everyone. Out of the window I just glimpsed an elderly man striding the beach in front of the cottages, a smile on his face and a bottle of rose in his hand. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;">The walk yesterday was more difficult than we'd anticipated, not because it was long or harduous – the climb was a bit steep at times but always you could walk it, rather than scramble. We're used to scrambling when we walk in Cappadokia. In fact, we're pretty much used to scrambling to the point where we have to go back because it's impossible and we probably took a wrong turn somewhere in the valley. The good thing about cliff walks is that it's fairly obvious where you should go. On the other hand, it's also pretty clear what would happen to you if you took a wrong turn, or if the children took a wrong turn. So it was a little nerve wracking and I pretty much had to drag Max all the way to Clarach (or some such thing) where we decided would be a good place to stop and ask for a lift – a mere four miles from where we started. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;">The good thing about having to stick close to Max is that we got to talk about what we saw a lot. I was able to teach him about how we get wool from sheep, and milk from cows which I think he understood. I also tried to explain that we ate the animals but couldn't think how to move his imagination from the large living thing to the plate of chili con carne. It was probably the first time he'd looked at a cow without cowering – he even baaaed at the sheep and moooed at the cows – so I didn't want to add pictures of slaughter to the mix. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;">We stopped on a beach by a farm to eat our sandwiches. The farm was huge, resembling a small castle. White, and with a thick wall surrounding it. I thought of the farms I'd seen in Yorkshire, in particular the small pile of grey stone that had once been the inspiration for Wuthering Heights. Yorkshire was on my mind as the friend I'd called to pick us up at the next village had just moved from Leeds where we'd visited in previous years. How convenient, how thougthful of them to move right next door to a place where that is bound to become our new base in the UK. Thank you Hannah and Roger, for making our lives so easy. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
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<a name='more'></a>Reading through the book you can't help but reflect on how scientific research has so often been tied up with social injustices of various sorts - whether experiments are being conducted on vulnerable minorities to benefit the better off, or whether those minorities are blocked from participating more actively in the research because they cannot get degrees, jobs, dodgy research founding, results falsified to back up oppressive practices, etc. But one particular discussion in the book caught my eye. The author was digressing on the history of cell research and writing about 1912 Nobel Prize winner <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexis_Carrel">Alexis Carrell</a>. Carrel, a Frenchman who later became a Nazi sympathiser and collaborator was famous, not so much for the research in organ transplant which earned him his prize, but for keeping cells from a chicken heart alive for over twenty years. Because the cells constantly multiplied, people were led to believe that Carrel had somehow created a giant chicken, which according to a BBC interview would be 'big enough to cross the Atlantic in a single stride'. It also caught the imagination of science fiction fans: in 1937, Bill Cosby read out a story called <a href="http://youtu.be/G_OD_jUnYNM">'Chicken Heart'</a> on the radio show 'Lights Out' in which a piece of chicken heart kept alive by a scientist grew and took to the streets, <a href="http://youtu.be/XhyRpvgm03g">Blob-like</a>, destroying the world in a couple of days.<br />
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People also spoke of the chicken cells as a potential elixir youth, because they were supposedly immortal, but Carrel was more interested in eugenics: how to improve the growth and the life span of a white intellectual elite, while at the same time sterilising the 'deviant' ones, or, if they proved at all dangerous, gassing them. The book in which he explained all this, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Man,_The_Unknown">Man, the Unknown</a>, became a best-seller.<br />
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Towards the end of his life, Carrel witnessed a miracle in Lourdes and became a mystic. This, rather than his nazi sympathies, prevented him from obtaining a desired post in France. He died in 1944, before he could be tried as a collaborator. The chicken heart cells were destroyed shortly afterwards by one of his assistants, but not before they were tested and people realised there were none of the original chicken cells left in the pot: Carrel had been feeding the new cells into the culture whenever he poured in the embryo juice he used to keep the cells alive. One of the researchers working with him admitted that he suspected as much. Whether or not Carrel himself knew what he was doing is unknown. What a twat, though.<br />
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<i>Oh, one last thing. If you liked this post, would you mind terribly clicking on the RSS feed, <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/feeds/comments/default">here</a>, or the Google connect buttons (top left), or by email at the bottom of this page? And if you didn't like it, you might still want to look around. <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/2010/04/really-theres-three-of-us.html">There's three of us</a>, you know, so you're (almost) bound to find something you like. And then, if you've still got time, you could share this post or stumble it, or both and get in touch with your local tv station to sing our praises. We'll love you forever.</i>Sandrinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10229404784641370601noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-58474581867903156182011-08-04T16:14:00.000+03:002011-08-04T16:14:04.854+03:00The sense that behind the grey, there is blue.<style type="text/css">
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<i>This is the third of a series of posts I drafted while on holidays in Wales last month. You can read the first two <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/2011/08/welsh-musings.html">here</a> and <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/2011/08/blue-island-ceramics.html">here</a>. </i><br />
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Running on the beach this morning I picked up a long piece of sea weed, like a big curly brown kite ribbon. I held it up in the air and it floated. I hung it up on the clothes line when I got back – thinking that given the weather so far, it would probably be the only thing up there. Yesterday and the previous day there was rain. And wind. We've not come out of our winter clothes since we arrived. And everyone assures us that this is not typical weather. I have the feeling that this is what you have to learn to say when you live somewhere on the Welsh coast, and it's best if you can believe it, even. But today, the air was slightly different. If you look at the clouds, and try to see through them, you nearly can. I don't mean you can see around them – the sky is still pretty much covered. But whereas yesterday the clouds were deep, dark, Sheffield grey, today they are a little more fluffy, a little more transparent. And behind the clouds, if you close one eye and look for long enough, there is blue. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
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<div style="margin-bottom: 0in;">On our second day, we fight back the weather by finding an indoors activity that is such that we'd rather do that than be on the beach anyway. We go and paint pots at <a href="http://www.blogger.com/%09%20http://www.blueislandceramics.co.uk">Blue Island Ceramics</a>. We're shown into a studio with two big tables and shelves all around, covered in white pieces of pottery. We're told to choose one each. Emma, step-sister in law, picks a milk jug and her daughter, Lottie, a box shaped like a cup cake, then Charlotte chooses a plate, Max a mug, and Bill and I decide we can do a bowl between the two of us, so we can also help (keep an eye on) Max. There was a dog outside, but Granny Gaby, step-mother-in law, mindful of Max's little quirks, has had it put inside straight away so Max is fine. No all we have to worry about is making sure Max doesn't break anything. He doesn't normally, but that's how we tend to react when he's in a new environment which is a bit close. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;">On the table there are numbered pots of colours. There's a tile that shows how each colour will look once it's cooked. And there's illustrations on the walls. Zana, the owner, shows us what to do. We clean our things first with a wet sponge, then we apply a first coat of paint with a brush, and a second with the sponge. We need to pick, design, get started. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;">I don't think either of us expected Max to enjoy himself that much, or to fit in to such an extent. We both felt he might and deserved to try. I'm glad we took him and I don't think he stood out that much or caused anyone to worry unduly. He's definitely growing up and finding easier to fit in with the neurotypical world.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
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<div style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Courtesy of my father in law and his wife, I am now sitting in the kitchen of a cottage in North Wales. Out the window is the sea. Rolling, cold, completely impenetrable by small children and their blow up boats, but the sea. And the beach, pebbles and sand, raised at the top by trucks and tractors and things who are unfortunately still here (although today, Sunday, they are home). And the rain, which flic-flocs on the windows at regular intervals. There'll be more of that during our stay, according to the people in charge. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
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</div>Sandrinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10229404784641370601noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4563136033538910586.post-42185981048233981252011-07-23T00:52:00.005+03:002011-07-23T01:13:36.429+03:00Of cat and menI think I'm fed up with my cat. It's really disturbing, because I love my cat. I like it. I mean, not as much as I used to like it, but still.<div><br /></div><div>I remember how it used to be at the beginning. I was all over it, cuddled it, though it was the cutest thing ever. I was thrilled that it would come to my bed and purr at night.<br /><br />I don't think my cat changed much. I mean, it got older, but it's still the same cat. And yet, I'm just tired of having it around. I don't want that many cuddles anymore and when it comes at night all I want to do is sleep and for the cat to leave me alone. I don't want to play with it anymore, but I make tons of effort to take care of it. </div><div><br /></div><div>I sometimes try and talk to my cat, but seriously, who am I kidding? How can a cat understand what I'm saying? So I just keep on making efforts, hoping it'll get back to what it used to be.</div><div><br /></div><div>Now read this text again and replace "it" by "him" and "cat" by "man" or "boyfriend". Creepy, huh?</div><div><br /></div><div><i>Oh, one last thing. If you liked this post, would you mind terribly clicking on the RSS feed, <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/feeds/comments/default">here</a>, or the Google connect buttons (top left), or by email at the bottom of this page? And if you didn't like it, you might still want to look around. <a href="http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/2010/04/really-theres-three-of-us.html">There's three of us</a>, you know, so you're (almost) bound to find something you like. And then, if you've still got time, you could share this post or stumble it, or both and get in touch with your local tv station to sing our praises. We'll love you forever.</i></div>Mariannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00666645405827056572noreply@blogger.com1